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How are you leading online?

A square inch of screen to make an impact from the neck up!

Is your role as a leader any different today to your role in the environment we may have just left behind? If it is, how do you adjust in order to maximise your leadership impact?

We spend a lot of time thinking about and developing strategies for keeping our people, customers and suppliers engaged and productive in the current remote and virtual world. There is no shortage of good advice and guidance on the practicalities. These are all things that can be strategized, organised, provided and learned. And they really matter.

Do they matter as much as you, the leader, showing up in every virtual/remote interaction you have with those people who are important to you and your business?

And if showing up is more than broadcasting to-do lists, checking numbers and remedial actions, agreeing decisions and debating courses of action, then, as leaders, we need to look at how we show up as a person because that’s what shows up in that square inch of screen.

 Showing up is about how you demonstrate that you care about your team, their mental health and working environment.

Showing up is about being someone who empathises with the difficulties they are facing.

Showing up is about them knowing, without thinking, that you are in the bear pit with them.

How do you do all that when you are communicating as a “head and shoulders” 100% of the time in a full-on virtual world on computer, screen, or phone screen?

If celebrated TV presenters are struggling with this new world where there is no physical interaction between them and their audience, it’s not surprising that leaders can feel a bit on edge when facing the same challenges. 

I had never had formal on-screen training, especially in headshot mode, and especially being on-screen for long periods of time. So, I took a lesson from an expert in the field of professional and personal presence in the virtual world. Eye opening is an understatement. What I learned in a couple of hours has enabled me to relax, be myself, come across (I am told as the authentic person they know), be human and attract and inspire my team to come on this new journey with me.

My biggest learning ?  How you show up really matters so pay attention to it!

The tech isn’t the stress – performing online is

Being your best in the head & shoulders, full-frontal new normal is here to stay!

Even the remaining luddites in the business world are getting to grips with the tech required to keep in touch and stay ahead. Tech and tech support you can learn or you can buy. Either way, you get it and it becomes, hopefully, an invisible part of your online performance.

What you can’t delegate, as a leader, is your personal presence online. This is true irrespective of whether you are facilitating, chairing or attending an all-hands meeting, an executive leadership team meeting, a 1-2-1, a broadcast to your customer base, an important sales call or your presence in a webinar or interactive seminar and the like. How you are perceived in this new normal world is key to your success as a leader. You probably spend a lot of cash on the tech and what is required to enable you to be permanently and professionally connected. What to you spend in cash and personal time investment on how you are perceived?

Given that you have already sorted out your online environment and your tech requirements, there are three layers to how you are perceived in the online World…1) your lack of nerves and stress on camera, 2) your ability to be seen as natural and human while being most definitely the leader and, 3) your ability to make your messages stick.

As most of you know our App, Zenpower, can deal with stresses and anxieties in number (1) above and this will enable you to focus on items (2) and (3). You can find out how to use Zenpower for free at the bottom of this post.

Items (2) and (3) rely on two factors:

  • Understanding your natural abilities, and
  • Coaching and mentoring to bring the best of out of you using these natural abilities.

I’m fortunate that I have one of the best on-screen online presence and performance coaches helping me. We worked together for two hours initially and then one hour a week for 3 weeks and then we will work together for an hour a month. It is truly eye-opening. Different ways of thinking, subtle changes in tonality, speed and body language (head and shoulders – with a bit of hands 😊, that all add up to a total natural, professional and leadership presence. I thought I was OK before. I now know what good really looks and sounds like.

Please think about how important your online presence is to you as a leader the effect this might have on your company. Consider getting some professional help in this area. It is not expensive and, given the damage you can do by not doing it, it has a tremendous ROI.

Let me know if you would like to enquire as to my coach’s current availability.

Please remember that you only get a few seconds to make a lasting impression.

I hope this has been of help. Happy to help in any way I can – drop me a message.

For free use of our stress and anxiety reduction App, Zenpower, go to and register. Use the company code 281270 when needed and download the app.

Trust in the digital age

I’ve not been blogging for over a year now and it’s not for lack of desire…I’ve just been seriously busy and blogging has fallen down my priority of things to get done. Elderly parent comes first, as a family we moved to San Diego a year ago and settling in here came second, work came third and blogging came after that…

However, as I’ve said for a long time now, trust is crucial in building a high-performing business through high-performing people and I’ve always believed that trust is situational. For instance, I can trust someone to complete a complex task and not trust them to do it on time. There are many better examples of where trust is strictly situational.

John Blakey’s book “The Trusted Executive” sets out the need for trustworthiness as the key descriptor in place of trust. Last week I was fortunate to be at the Vistage UK Executive Summit and heard Rachel Botsman talk on trust in the digital age. What an extraordinarily brilliant talk she gave. It was well design, clear, simple and powerful – with great takeaways. I’d highly recommend her book “Who Can You Trust? (How technology brought us together and why it might drive us apart).

Think about the question “Is this person trustworthy in this situation?” rather than “Can I trust this person?”. Seems not too dissimilar – doesn’t it? The effect on your thinking is immense.


Conversational Intelligence

I posted this originally in my Growing Conversations blog site. I thought it was worthy of inclusion here also…

I’m currently following Judith E. Glaser’s online course on Conversational Intelligence. I firmly believe that you can never get enough learning about any form of intelligence if you are in the people business. As coaches we need to understand all elements of our clients behaviour and be able to ask the elegant and/or challenging questions that bring awareness of themselves and how others see and react to them.

Judith has spent a lifetime studying conversation and her book “Conversational Intelligence – How Great Leaders BUILD TRUST and Get Extraordinary Results” is a really good read with many insights.

One immediate insight from the first few page is…

We all know that there are many levels of conversation dependent on who you are conversing with and what the subject and content contain together with the intended outcome. Judith simplifies this to the following (paraphrasing McNulty style)…

Level 1  Transactional – transfer of data e.g. sales to date, EBITda, name of project etc.

Level 2  Positional – instructional conversation where one person is always holding sway and decision authority e.g. discussion between leader and subordinate where the leader is deciding the outcome.

Level 3  Co-creational – where both parties to the conversation agree and work together to co-create a better future for both. Not one of the parties has authority vested for the outcome and only a win-win outcome can bring the conversation to a conclusion.

There are many variations and mixed interpretations that can be added here. However, if we take these three levels as our datum for evaluating the level of conversation we are either about to start, we are in, or we have recently completed, it enables us to understand better the conversation and adjust accordingly.

There are many more great tools, techniques, tips and case studies in Judith’s book. I will pull some out and note them down here occasionally.

Keep talking – it’s our last free interactive resource 😊


Ask more questions

When we aDid you knowre children we ask tens of thousands of questions. We ask for facts initially…e.g…what is this? As we grow older we start to ask why? We ask why and why and why incessantly as children. Parents get driven mad by their children’s continual search for explanations about everything.

When we get older we start stopping to ask questions. Culturally we are expected to know. Not knowing is seen as being at fault. However, the knowledge available is growing far faster than any of us can keep up with and so, as a percentage of the knowledge we could know, we know less and less every day.

All innovations and inventions start with a question…focus1

  • What would we create if we had a blank page?
  • Where would we look if we had lost our way?
  • How might we include fully all our stakeholders?

We must start and foster a culture of permanent questioning.

Companies groquestionsw by questions…where should we be going?..what areas do we need to innovate?..why are we not expanding in Europe? It is the job of the business leader to grow the business. It is the job of the business leader to ask questions. How can I help my team to grow? Where should we be concentrating?

Why is it then that we expect our business leaders to have all the answers. As a leader of people in whatever walk of life your job is to question your team’s answers and not answer their questions.

How present are you with your people? Are they a distraction? Is answering their questions the quick and easy way out? How will they allow you to grow if you don’t allow them to grow?

Creating great questions requires us to be great listeners. How well do you really listen? What if you could only ask a question based on the last sentence of the person in your conversation? What would have heard? How clear would the conversation become?

So ask more questions..and question more answers.

Learn how to ask better questions. Talk to me…why not?


Conversation – are we losing it?

Conversation is our World’s last free natural resource – are we losing it?

I’m not given to blowing things out of proportion. Well, at least I think I’m not. What do you think? To find out I have to ask you and we would start a conversation. The outcome would be unclear at the start and we would explore the subject by asking questions and listening to the answers in real time and then responding. Yes – I know that’s a strange concept but it does seem to work quite well when the people concerned understand the rules of conversation. Sadly most of us seem to have forgotten them.

I travel extensively. Trains, planes, buses and car travel are getting quieter and quieter as everyone who is together on the journey is existing alone but together somewhere else in space, and maybe in time, facilitated by their digital technology. Anyone who does speak is frowned at, especially if it is a one-way conversation on a mobile phone.

Hey! I hear you say – you’re teched up to your eyelids. I admit it – I am, and I’m trying my hardest to not be. However, I get some really strange looks if I start a conversation on any mode of transport with someone I don’t know. I get short shrift even from those I do know!

Before I get too hard on the people who use technology rather than their voice to communicate, it does have amongst it’s attributes of speed, immediacy and being location free, a great advantage…you have to read the whole message before you can reply. This rarely happens in a real conversation with everyone anxiously waiting to get their oar in and regularly butting into other people talking before they are finished. In the real world we are losing the art of really listening. Without really listening, real conversations cannot happen. However, although you have to wait to see the whole message, there is no emotion, tone, emphasis or pauses to help you interpret its meaning. This can lead to serious issues. Listening to messages is better, as are innovations like Face-time and Skype but they are not as good as face-to-face in my opinion.

The other advantage of digital conversation is that you can spend time composing great questions, even elegant ones. However the same issue arises in that it isn’t possible (not even with emoticons etc.) to understand the nuances intended in the question.

It seems to me that there needs to be a mixture perhaps. We can sit together face-to-face and compose our messages and send them. The other person can notify us that it has arrived and we can then say it. The receiver then gets time to compose their response and send it and then say it. And on and on. This way we have to listen fully and we get time to respond properly. Gosh – that sounds good.

Well that last paragraph was a load of old twaddle wasn’t it? I don’t know. Shall we chat about it?

All I do know is that we are losing the art of listening, losing the art of asking great questions and, if this continues, we will lose our greatest asset – the art of conversation. From conversation comes understanding. From understanding comes awareness. From conversation comes negotiation. From conversation comes compromise. From conversation come the seeds of peace. Conversation is important. Let’s not lose how to use it.

Try every day to have at least one mindful, meaningful and memorable face-to-face conversation where both people listen well, ask great questions and both grow as a result. Talking is good for you.

Why do we need a “Why?”?

whyWhy is why the question we need to ask ourselves before we know why our why is our why? What if that’s a silly question? Is it a silly question? What drives us to have a why and why does it drive us? Why do we have whys? What’s behind our driving passion? What’s behind our reason to exist? Do we need a reason to exist?

Is existing enough of a reason? What do we get from having a driving reason? Why might a driving reason be essential for a happy, healthy life? What if that’s not true?

This train of thought took me by surprise some years ago when, while out clambering up some steep hills in training for a much larger mountain expedition, I was thinking about what I was doing in the here and now and I started searching for some meaning to why I was doing it over and above the need to pay the mortgage and put food on the table.

I started by asking the question…what if we assume that the vast majority of people need a purpose to get out of bed each morning? That purpose can be as basic as the need to work in order to survive or a driving force centred on a life long personal objective. How do we come to know why we get out of bed each morning? What is our why? What is at the heart of every one of our whys?

For example, why am I writing this blog? What does writing this blog provide me with? What is it about writing this blog that fulfils the reward I require to justify the writing of it?

What will happen for me if I write this blog?

What won’t happen for me if I write this blog?

What will happen for me if I don’t write this blog?

What won’t happen for me if I don’t write this blog?

What if simply “it makes me feel good” is the only reason to have a why?

If it is, then why does it make me feel good?

What is it about the why that makes me feel good?

What part of my why might I ignore with no loss of feeling good?

I asked myself…why do whys provide us with purpose?

What is it about the last question that makes it the easiest to answer?

Do all our whys make us feel good?

Do all our whys answer the question about why we are here i.e. why we exist?

If neither of the questions above generates a “yes” answer then is there a reason to have a why?

If the answer to both of the questions above is “yes” then the reason to have a why is obvious.

The questions now revert to “why does it make us feel good? And “How does executing our why prove to us why we exist?

Will asking all these questions simply send us looking for answers in ever decreasing or ever increasing circles, finally disappearing somewhere unpleasant?

If we assume that no one wants to delve into the deep philosophy of why we exist and only really wants to know how best to attain a real and fulfilling life, then I suggest that we all need to understand what drives us.

What do you love doing? What makes your heart sing? What are you simple great at? What gives you most satisfaction? What would you do if no one judged you? What would you do if no one was watching? What would you do if you had no external responsibilities? What would you do if you had a totally free choice, if it wouldn’t harm anyone and if you only had a year or so to live?

I looked at this by trying to identify what were the really great questions to ask myself? It is hard to focus on asking yourself a great question without attaching some form of judgement to it. It is hard developing the really insightful question without attaching some vested interest to it. So I asked my coach to help me.

She asked me “Why is it important for you to find why your why is your why?” Well that stumped me for a good week or two. All the answers I came up with just led me to the question “and is that why finding your why is important?” and the answer was always “not really” because they were all results of implementing what I believed to be my why. They were all outcomes and not initiators.

So, as much as I find it hard to trace my life back to my infant years, I decided my why must be in my make up, must be a function of who I am currently and must have been formed in my unconscious mind a few years after birth.

After a few months of contemplative, mindful, meaningful discussions and memorable conversations I realised that my why is centred on a single limiting belief that can be traced to my experiences as a new school student aged about 5. Now I know why I have a why I can forget about it and just get on with being me and becoming the best me I can be. Now I know I can change my limiting belief into an empowering one and my why can now take on a greater purpose in my life.

It’s been hard. It’s been fun. It’s been rewarding. It is certainly a worthwhile exercise and I have since studied the topic at great length and helped many others uncover why they are who they are and why they do why they do things.

I wish you a truly enlightening journey finding why your why is important to you.



Mind over Matter

brainHow much does it matter to you for your mind to be as fit and well as possible? My friend Keiron runs a cognitive testing and development business (MyCognition) where, for a few pounds, you can get your cognitive strengths tested. I came out with an overall strength of 68%, which I was appalled with, until Keiron told me the average is 60%! Since then I’ve been undertaking ways to increase the wellness of my mind.

My quest has taken me into the depths of meditation; into full-on mindfulness; self-hypnosis; into activities that stretch both sides of the brain like juggling and I’ve also taken up exercise on a relaxed basis e.g. jogging, walking, hill walking, golf and the like. My cognitive skills have improved but not as much as has my hearing, my short-term memory and my aching bones.

Now to the real crux of the matter. How has my mind changed? I’ve become more focussed, less distractible, more relaxed around stressful situations, more level headed and less impulsive. My decision-making has improved greatly which is borne out by better results and my team are enjoying more autonomy and a greater sense or teamwork. Can I blame it all on improving my mind? I don’t know. However, whatever I am doing is having some wonderful unintended consequences.

Here’s an example from this morning. I set out for a 5 kilometre run around our community streets. I wanted to be mindful of the event and so I concentrated on bringing my mind back to my breathing every time it wandered off. I noticed how all the front gardens are 90% green with little colour. I surmise this is because they stay green all year and so the garden looks tidy all year. I’d never considered this before. I noticed that 80% of owners drive into their front drives in a forward direction and then reverse out. I noticed how this could be a safety issue as the high hedges obscure the view from of the main road for the driver. I noticed street details I’d never seen before and we’ve lived here 25 years. There were many more observations.

The absolute key to the experience was that it took me no longer than normal to complete my run and at the end I felt I had a lot more energy left than normal. I also realised that a couple of difficult work situations have potentially simple solutions.

Was this all due to a mindful run? I don’t know. What I do know is that looking after my mind as much, if not more than, my body has given me an increased energy, better focus and a much more rewarding quality of life.

As with all things it won’t suit everyone but I do urge you to at least try it for yourself before you dismiss it. We need strong leaders. A strong body and a well and strong mind are, in my opinion, integral parts of great leadership.

It would be wonderful to receive some of your experiences. Thanks. Steve